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Why should women be silent?


Read this.  It is one of the best writings on women speaking in church that I have ever read.  Rachel Held Evans makes some powerful points about Paul’s statement in 1 Corinthians 14 that women should be silent in church.  It would do us well to understand the context of these Scriptures when answering questions about women in church.
Arguments we don’t hear
One of the points she makes is that we rarely hear sermons on other “demands” about men such as: when men are praying, they should lift holy hands or greet one another with a holy kiss.  These Scriptures (from 1 Corinthians 16) are spoken in the same authoritative voice but are not taught and certainly not adhered to.
It’s the same old point that the church is proficient at highlighting certain texts and ripping out others.
“Silence” did not apply to all women
As Evans pointed out, Paul told some women to be silent but others were encouraged to prophesy.  Why?  As the article states, the church had attracted a large population of young widows because of its promise to care for them.  But these widows were adhering to the Roman fertility cults of Artemis and were a bit wild.  Paul wanted for them to heal, to overcome their trauma, and to learn to love themselves in Jesus before leading others.  That’s a really great thing.
As always, Scripture must be interpreted through the lens of love.  God cares about the condition of our hearts.  He is always concerned about the condition of the hearts of those leading the church and promoting the message of Jesus.
So again, we come back to healing and wellness.  Humility, gentleness, and the rest of the “Fruits of the Spirit.”  God cares about your heart, your wholeness, your wellness.  He cares about how deeply you grasp His love.  For you.
You were not created to stay silent.  But before you start teaching others, assume the position of utter humility.  I was thinking about this just yesterday.  There is a Scripture that says, “The Fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.”  I am convinced that that means you start to grow up when you realize you don’t know sh*t.
So, before you start rambling your thoughts to the world, be humbled.  We would all do well to learn this lesson (men included), now wouldn’t we?
until soon,
b.

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