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You just gonna stand there and bleed?

"Even a fool who remains silent is considered wise,
and the one who holds his tongue is deemed discerning."
Proverbs 17:28

This verse reminds me of good ole' Johnny "Madcap" Tyler in the movie Tombstone.  When we first meet Mr. Tyler, he's sitting at the Faro table being loud, slapping around the customers, and "waving his gun around."  

Wyatt Earp shuts him up with a few stern words and a bitch slap.

How would you even know that someone was foolish unless he open his (or her) mouth?

He cannot hold his tongue or remain silent.  That is the irony of this Scripture.

The Bible has a lot to say about the fool.  He loves to express his opinion, criticize others, is quick-tempered, quick to action, makes poor decisions, pulls immature pranks (and then says, "Hey, I'm just jokin'!").
His mouth "is his ruin."
His lips "walk into a fight and invite a beating."

But then there are those that use wisdom.  I don't recommend Wyatt's method of correction in this scene but he is fighting for justice--for the other patrons and the bartender.  I think it gets to the point.

Wyatt gives Johnny the opportunity to change.  In essence, he says, "You gonna keep being foolish or are you gonna shut up and change your ways?"
But Johnny's heart was full of foolishness.  Later in the movie, he comes after Wyatt with a shotgun. He may have seemed wise because he closed his mouth for a while but his heart eventually betrayed his true character.

We all know someone like Johnny Tyler.  He (or she) can be quite emotionally exhausting.
Typically, a good-intentioned conversation about his behavior doesn't work.
He does not change his ways.  He "trusts in his own mind," and thinks all of his own ways are right.

Jesus addressed foolish behavior in Matthew 5.  He is essentially saying--Listen, I know that some people are really difficult to be around and can make you extremely angry.  But don't lash out at them in anger or else you will be just like them (Proverbs 26:4-5).  Instead, examine your own heart.
The fool does not shut his mouth long enough to examine his heart. Or he does, and "takes no pleasure in understanding."  He thinks all of his own ways are right.  And typically, he won't change.

Foolish people like to argue and argue and argue and argue and will exhaust all of themselves in order to sway you to their own foolishness, opinions, political platform, etc.
Be wise.  Examine your heart before you speak.

And when you do, let your words fight for justice.


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