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When you don't "want to"

"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart."
Psalm 37:4

The pastor at our church often prays, "Lord, give us the 'want to.'"
I don't think I've ever heard him talk about this little prayer that he prays or explain it in any way.
Most Sundays, he just prays and skips right along to the next topic.  But every time he says this one little line, it sticks in my heart like a field burr.  I can't get past it.

It's similar to what King David prayed in Psalm 119:36.  "Lord, give me the desire to follow your laws."  And like the verse above, I believe that God gives us the desires of our heart, which means that he actually places the appropriate desires within our hearts and then grants those desires.

So any time I don't "want to" do something--when I have absolutely no desire to do it--the answer is as simple of a little prayer.  Lord, give me the "want to."

There are a million things that I know I should or should not be doing at any given time.
There are people I don't "want to" forgive or love or even be in the same room with.
There are plenty of personal character traits that I don't "want to" work on.
There are days that I don't "want to" pray or be empathic or think compassionate thoughts.
Hell, there are even days I don't "want to" even get out of bed.
There are certainly days that I don't "want to" follow God's laws or accept his love or have faith.
Just being honest.

Some days, the most...the very most...that I can do is whisper a small Lord, give me the "want to."
Believing that this small whisper is the most pleasing, profound prayer in God's ear.
A prayer that He loves to answer.


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