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Accepting the Crooked Way

"Accept the way God does things, for who can straighten what He has made crooked."
Ecclesiastes 7:13

The first things that strikes me about this is that is plainly says God makes things crooked.  Isn't that contrary to what we are typically taught?  I know that I will always expend enormous amounts of energy trying to "straighten" what I perceive as crooked in my life.  It never works out well.

I see this in the story of Jonah.  God had put a crook in Jonah's plans by telling him to go to Ninevah. So Jonah tries to straighten it out.  It says he:

WENT in the opposite direction
WENT to the seashore
FOUND a ship
BOUGHT a ticket
WENT on board
HOPED that he was going west
ESCAPED God (tried!)

And then God acted.  Just once.

God SENT a powerful storm.

I believe it's a matter of perception, expectation, and will.  What God was asking of Jonah was, in reality, the straight way.  It was the perfect way.  But Jonah perceived it as crooked because it was not in line with his own will.  So, our work is to accept the way God does things.

Accepting.  It's the last stage of grief.  Before we accept, we demand, bargain, get depressed, get angry, yell, cry, feel numb... and then... accept.

God knows this.  He understands.


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